Tuesday, October 2, 2012

1/2 Marathon Challenge, Day 2

A while back I was having a hard time with life in general, and my perception of my marriage in particular, so I went to a counselor who worked at a Christian counselling center. I had read a lot of relationship books on my own, but was just having trouble putting it all together. My counselor was amazing, and really helped me, in so many ways. So there’s message one of this post: don’t be afraid to get help! We are called to be in community, so there is no shame in that. we are called to confess our sins to one another, to bear each other’s burdens and to encourage one another. If you do not have a Christian community - be it a church family, or even better a small group - to lean on, getting professional help can be a real blessing. it was for me.

Here’s the real point though: my favorite thing about the help I got was that they intentionally pointed out how scientific discoveries in the realm of psychology - over and over again - confirmed scriptural truth. My counselor pointed out how the commandments of God on how to live our lives are completely in line with what she called “healthy choices.”

It is great to know, in our lack of faith and disbelief, that God is not leading us astray, that he truly does have our best interests at heart - even if sometimes it leaves us like sulky teenagers having to admit our father is right! It calls to mind the words of the Psalmist in Psalm 18:30

As for God, his way is perfect; the Lord's word is flawless, and he shields all he take refuge in Him.

I will lastly use this post as a thank you to my counselor. It was she who suggested that I make use of the knowledge I gained in my own research and soul-searching during that dark time in my life for the good of others. It was she who inspired me to start writing the pieces that became this blog! 

So thank you, Amanda Berger-Semko, and all the staff at Wellspring Christian Counseling.



  1. Thank you for your post and reminder! It is so often hard to say I need help! and it takes a brave person to be open enough to say I got help and you should too!

    I know I'm bias, as a Christian counselor, but I am really glad that you shared your experience of finding God's truth with in the words of healing.

    Truth is truth! Hope and healing can be found in the midst of some horrible situations.

    It is easy to forget that God was the designer of our minds, our bodies, and our spirits. We have a tendency to look as his instructions as commands, or "a drag". But if we look again and try to understand them as the words of a loving designer and father. We see that following the instructions actually leads to the desired outcome we've been searching for!

    Who knew that following directions mattered so much!

    Now only if it were so easy to keep doing!

    Thanks for your post!

  2. Thanks for your transparency. I know your story will minister to many. Keep pointing others to the perfect Marriage Counselor; Jesus Christ. Behold, I make all things new!

  3. I love counseling! I love that God brought us to the right person to counsel us as well. Mine encourages my writing too. Writing my story is not only healing, but it also allows me to minister to those who may be hurting or maybe even help someone who find themselves in dangerous situations, ready to make horrible compromises.

  4. Thank you for sharing your experience. Help is good. Asking for help= growth! Getting help is wise to do rather than try and figure things out alone when we can benefit from another's perspective:)